Tacenda

There are a number of things we all want to drown in a deafening roar of anger, and general frustration. If not a roar, then it's something more involved. To confront people, stab them in the face (or cause them some degree of harm proportionate to the harm they might have caused one), and to be as destructive as one can until the blind rage fades away.

This is a bad idea.

When done for the wrong reasons.

As Mark Twain said:

"Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured."

Yes, you can angrily break someone's nose but what will that accomplish? In the workplace, the person punching will get fired without a second thought. The receiver will be seen as the victim even if they totally deserved it. Of course, that's a bad example because despite it being common, it's generally common sense to avoid physical altercations at the workplace.

If one were to hold a terrible grudge against someone else, the person holding the grudge would be inviting a host of problems like isolation from friends and family, ulcers, stressing themselves out, lack of concentration on things that actually matter, and- you get the point of that particular side. The person that's the target of the grudge probably doesn't notice, or even care.

The same argument holds for someone acting on the grudge- "I fucking hate that guy! I'm gonna kick his teeth in!" It's something that weighs heavily on you afterwards. Yes, you accomplished what you set out to do but at what cost? Could what they did really justify having their health ruined to a great extent? What revenge will they exact on you for this? Will the cyclical back-and-forth game of vengeance end?

A better solution is to let it go.

Let go whatever issue you have that has you so fired up and has your feathers all ruffled. Let it go. Let it destroy itself. Don't feed it your time. Don't feed it your energy. By letting go of it and not feeding it, you're guaranteeing that you are superior to whatever is trying to drag you down.

Instead, starve it.

Do things for yourself. Improve for yourself. You are more important than that thing that goes unsaid and ultimately has no importance.